Online therapy in Florida
Relationship patterns therapy in Florida
Different person. Different circumstances. Somehow, the same ending.
Pick a time online. No card required, no obligation.
What this often looks like
- Choosing people who turn out to be unavailable
- Being the one who over-functions, then resenting it
- The same argument on repeat with different words
- Bracing for someone to leave before anything has happened
- Losing yourself inside relationships
- Ending things preemptively
What we work on
- Naming the pattern precisely, not vaguely
- Where it started and what it once protected
- What you’re actually looking for underneath the choosing
- Saying what you need without managing the other person’s reaction
- Tolerating being cared about
- For couples: interrupting the loop in real time
How the work goes
When the same dynamic keeps arriving, the usual explanation is bad luck or bad judgment. Neither is very useful, and neither changes anything.
What tends to be underneath is a set of expectations formed long before the current relationship — about what you have to do to be kept, what happens if you need something, what it costs to be honest. Those expectations then quietly select for and shape the relationships that confirm them.
This work is available individually or as couples counseling. Individually, we look at your side of the pattern. Together, we look at the loop the two of you build. My couples work is informed by Gottman Method training.
“Pattern-focused” describes how I organize the work, not a separate school of therapy. The methods underneath it are cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, rational emotive behavior therapy and reality therapy, along with Gottman Method training for couples and EMDR (Level 3 trained).
Whether this is a fit
What I’m not the right fit for
- Active suicidal planning or a recent attempt
- Detox, or substance use needing daily structure
- Psychosis or untreated mania
- Eating disorders requiring medical monitoring
- Anyone under 18
- Court-ordered evaluations, custody letters or psychological testing
These need more than one clinician on a screen once a week. Get in touch anyway if you are unsure. I will tell you honestly if this practice is not the right fit and, when appropriate, point you toward a more suitable resource.
Start with a free 15-minute call.
No obligation after the consultation. If I am not the right fit, I will tell you and discuss other options when appropriate.
Pick a time online. No card required, no obligation.